By Jorina Fontelera
People are more relaxed when they are on holiday and perhaps because of that, they are more confident about flirting. A simple smile, brief eye contact and a subtle lift of one eyebrow are all signals that someone might be flirting with you. By learning to read these body cues, you can figure out if someone is interested in you. Then you can decide whether to ignore the unwanted attention or flirt back.
Instructions
Difficulty: Moderately Easy
Step 1
Observe if there's someone who keeps walking past you---she may be trying to get your attention. Furthermore, if someone is smiling at you from across the room, he may be trying to flirt with you as well.
Step 2
The person's eyes will reveal much. If he catches your eye, it's probably a sign he would like to make contact. Men's gazes pass over people he does not find attractive, so if he locks eyes on you, he probably is interested. Women react similarly. This eye contact is usually briefly followed by a quick look away, as if he got caught checking you out. If she is flirting with you, chances are, you'll "catch" her taking a glimpse later on. Additionally, if you are engaged in conversation, someone flirting with you will continually make eye contact and point their body toward you.
Step 3
Take notice of if he is standing or positioning himself. A man will stand tall and squared off to show of his manliness. A woman, if sitting, may cross and uncross her legs to get you to take notice of them and the implicit sexuality.
Step 4
Pay attention to preening. Someone trying to flirt with you will try to put his best face forward. A man may smooth his tie or another part of his outfit to make sure he's absolutely presentable. A woman may play with her hair---tossing it or combing it with her fingers---or lick her lips to bring attention to her face.
Step 5
Watch for non-threatening physical contact. There's nothing like touch to convey interest in someone. If you are speaking with someone who is trying to flirt with you, she may touch you lightly in response to something you said to show enthusiasm for what you are saying. It also conveys that he wants to be close to you, as touching is very intimate.
Step 6
Listen for compliments. These may not be overt as that may be interpreted as coming on too strong. Someone who's interested in you might also ask about something you're wearing or the "story" behind something you have in your possession. In general, someone who's interested will try to engage you in conversation in which he can not only compliment you and express interest, but also find out more about you.
Resources
About the Author:
Jorina Fontelera began her writing career in 2003. Although predominantly a business writer, she also writes about animals, food and entertainment. She has been published in "Converting Magazine," the "Milwaukee Business Journal," Industrial Market Trends and others. She works for "The Trusted Professional," covering local, national and international financial news. She holds a Bachelor of Arts in writing intensive English from Marquette University.
